Gilmore girls

If you’re out on the road
Feelin’ lonely and so cold
All you have to do is call my name
And I’ll be there
On the next train

Where you lead
I will follow
Anywhere that you tell me to
If you need, if you need me to be with you
I will follow
Where you lead!

“I live in two worlds. My second one is, by far, superior. My second one is populated with characters slightly less eccentric but supremely real, made of flesh and bone, full of love, who are my ultimate inspiration for everything. Richard and Emily Gilmore are kind, decent,unfailingly generous people. They are my twin pillars without whom I could not stand. I’m proud to be their Grand child. But my ultimate inspiration comes from my best friend, the dazzling woman from whom I received my name and my life’s blood, Lorelai Gilmore. My Mother never gave me any idea I couldn’t do whatever I wanted to do or be whomever I wanted to be. She filled our house with love and fun and books and music, unflagging in her efforts to give me role models from Jane Austen to Eudora Welty to Patti Smith. As she guided me through these incredible 18 years I don’t know if she ever realized that the person I most wanted to be was her. Thank you Mom. You are my guidepost for everything. “

I have now seen Gilmore girls for the fifth time. It makes me teary every single time I hear this speech. Words are just not enough to describe the relationship Gilmore girls share. Every child shares a very special relationship with their parents.

Emily was Lorelai’s mother. She was from a wealthy family and was brought up with morals and virtues of a lady. She had impeccable taste in art, music & culture. She lived by the words “Manners maketh man”. She believed that there was a decorum and a proper manner of doing everything, she was happy to follow it and made sure everyone around her did so too. Perfection was her middle name. No maid could survive her terror for more than a month.

The woman who was too stubborn to let go of her ways, had a daughter who was unruly and wild. She had views and opinions that no one around her could understand. She challenged every rule and path she was expected to follow. She felt caged and clobbered, when she was not allowed make her own decisions and voice her opinions. The first opportunity she saw to bolt out of there, she did. She went ahead and made a beautiful life for herself and her daughter Rory, She was proud of who she was and wouldn’t have it any other way. That’s Lorelai for the world.

Rory grew up in a household which might not have had the best amenities but was full of sunshine and laughter. She was given all the love a child could ever need. She made her own decisions and spoke her mind. She always knew that her mother understood her and always had her back. Lorelai gave Rory everything that she lacked in her childhood. Trust, respect, freedom. Rory idealized her mother’s confidence and her wit, she aspired to be like her. She respected her mother and her grand parents ways of parenting and loved them in her own way.

As far as the mother daughter relationship goes, I believe I got a perfect blend of Lorelai and Emily in my life, as I was no Rory, my mother being a complete Lorelai would not have turned out so well. Emily, Lorelai or Mrs. Kim, all mothers only wish the best for their daughters in their own unique ways.

In life we come across a lot of people, make friends but only a few manage to enter our bubble. From the few that come close enough to know us, we start to depend on. But some stick, forever, like sticky glue. They go with your bits, have your caffeine addiction, mock you mercilessly for the bad fashion choices you make, keep an eye out for the bad boys, most importantly constantly have your back come whatever may. Life can be very different when you have someone to fall back on. Like Rory and Lorelai had each other. Everyone needs a Lorelai Gilmore in their lives to make the most of it.

Watching the show makes me want to re-live my life. The passion that the Lorelai and Rory have for their careers, making their own way and the sweet bitter relationship that they share is inspiring. They know each other so well that they can complete each others sentences. They share all aspects of their lives with each other, even in disagreement they know exactly what the other one is thinking. They eat like there is no tomorrow, well that’s because they had unearthly metabolism. Through all the ups and downs of their lives they always trusted each other.

Being a parent is a very tricky job. The line between being a parent and a friend is not always very clear. Sometimes, you know your kid is going to get hurt if they make the wrong choice, but you have to let them make their own mistakes. Lorelai always put in her 2 cents but also gave Rory the space to make her own choices, right or wrong. The show captures the essence of a healthy parent-child-friend relationship perfectly. Trust, Space and mutual respect are the key to Lorelai and Rory’s relationship.

Rory made a fair amount of mistakes, so did Lorelai. They didn’t always see eye to eye on their problems but they always came through for each other.

The kids don’t always know that they can come to their parents with their problems. They need to be reminded of that, not just with words but by extending your support. They need to be told that there will be consequences but, you will always have their back. They need a safe space where they can be themselves, make their own mistakes, learn from them and be better people. Parenting is the toughest job there is and also the most rewarding. Gilmore girls shows various aspects of that journey, the highs and lows, the sweet and bitter. It shows that we can always rely on our parents for their love and support.

It’s always a treat watching this series and surprisingly I always learn something new. It is a must watch for parents who want to be friends with their kids and kids who are cool enough to know that parents are the best friends they can ever have.